"Will people laugh at me if I colour a princess?" asked my five year old son, when we were talking our regular talk about his friendship woes at school. "Jayden said to me ‘You’ve got a purple hoody,'" my eldest, age seven, confided, a bit downcast. Jayden will have said this in a mocking way. I … Continue reading Being A Man Starts with Challenging Gender Stereotypes Age 3
What did I learn from listening to survivors of prostitution? That school age girls are most in demand – and it’s not only for sex but 'despoilment' ‘I’ve answered phones in enough brothels to know the most common question is always, ‘What age is the youngest girl you have?’ writes Rachel Moran, a survivor of … Continue reading XXX Schoolgirls Wanted
I was one of the first people to write about the disgustingness of lad mags, along with a brave blogger called Charliegirl, so, ten years later, I thought it fitting that I be one of the last. FHM and Zoo have closed, joining Loaded, Nuts, Maxim and Front in the ‘end of the lad mags era.’ … Continue reading A last word on lad mags: The real reason they closed
I had never heard of the BBC broadcaster Barbara Sturgeon and now I want to be one of the girlfriends who do karaoke with her, and I’ve never cared much for that. This week I met Barbara as she trained a group of women, including me, in public speaking. We are to become a group … Continue reading Speak up like a woman
As 2014 was the year that the Fourth Wave of Feminism went mainstream, more men may be wondering what they should and could be saying and doing. Luckily, men, there are a significant number of male-led campaigns and organisations to help you work it out. Because as one young woman at the 2014’s Feminist in … Continue reading A man’s introduction to feminism
Why else do I bother with all this feminist stuff? Because I want every 18-year-old girl heading off to university to have lots of hot, uninhibited sex too, if that is what she fancies. She will have her sexual adventures with young men who understand that she is a human, and if she has not given her consent to sex, it means she does not want to be raped.
The fact that most people think feminists are man-haters is just incredulous when male-dominated culture spews women-hating narratives in our faces everyday. In collective women’s raped, tortured, butchered, abused, oppressed, stalked, harassed, shamed and blamed faces, everyday. Misogyny steals our lives and hurts so deep that dying becomes preferable to living. It hurts even more … Continue reading Stalking as sexy? Adam Levine pushes Robin Thicke off top spot as pop hero for misogynists
While lad mags were about cowardice, feminism is about great courage in the face of injustice, abuse, suffering and repression.
As well as being a devastatingly crap experience for many women working in the clubs, lap dancing and pole dancing clubs promote all women as sex objects.
This week the Evening Standard gave Russian model Katia Elizarova the power to say something extremely damaging – to normalise male violence against women.